Ekene Moses

My straightforward book-reading tips to overcome bibliophobia or reading apathy/laziness.

I am trying to rekindle my reading habit, could you help me do that, please?

I’ll write an article on how to read more books, I hope that helps…

The above is the conversation between me and a friend that led to this article. I hope it helps her find her way back to reading books and also anyone who struggles with it or has lost it.

To begin with, we are more of a generation of readers compared to the previous five generations before us. I may be wrong, but I believe with the volume of content we consume daily — weekly basis via our mobiles, pads, tabs, laptops, etc., there is no way we could be very far from that.

Fun fact — a scientific study shows that we are bombarded by the equivalent of 174 newspapers of data a day.

The summary of the study indicates that every day the average person produces six newspapers worth of information compared with just two and a half pages 24 years ago — nearly a 200-fold increase.

But then, what do people mean when they say, ‘I have not been reading or that I struggle to read?🤷‍♂️’

It simply means when you find yourself not reading enough or at all the things your inner curiosity demands from you.

In my observation, which I believe if I research further, I’ll find is scientifically backed, is that our curiosity/brain works like our body which has appetites.

Below, I provide personally proven ways to read more books in 3 months than you have in three years, even if you have bibliophobia.

By the way, I hate those personal development strategies that are too harsh and near impossible to achieve. I kept it simple here: even someone who had never finished a book before could start by completing this article.

1 — Start from a place of interest and passion

Yes, interest and passion are essential in pursuing any goal. No matter how small or big. But the problem is that we often buy into hype and trends when it involve books.

Books are not like newly released films that everyone is rushing to get a feel of. And, even if we are to compare this scenario, I believe you had had several movies that a friend hyped, but when you started watching them, you discovered it is not your kind of movie and, in some cases, could not even finish it.

Before I was bitten by the bug of book worming, I remember that I had a friend that was into geography and history books. I tried them, but I was never able to finish any. Now I read vast and almost everything, however, of course, things that interest me.

So, the first approach is to ask yourself the genre of books you would wish to complete in the next three months. Once you have figured them out, go and get them…

2 — Spice it up with a mix

Monotony kills interest! But when it comes to reading books, I don’t think enough people bring this up into reasonable consideration.

As a starter, let’s assume you would want to finish two or three books (depending on their volume) in the next three months; I suggest you should not go for the same kind of books. This kills interest, period!

Imagine being served your ‘favourite’ delicacy every day for three months. Of course, you will be bored. That food might even seize being your favourite at some point. This example happens when you, out of the desire to rekindle your reading habit, go for a similar topic (finance, personal development, fiction, nonfiction, etc.).

Each year, noted bookworms and celebrities Barack Obama, a former president of America, and Microsoft co-founder Bill Gates release a list of books they have read. I will provide you with links to these lists to see for yourself — 1. Barack Obama, and 2. Bill Gates.

On both lists, you will find a spiced-splash mixture of interests. You, too, can do the same!

A bonus tip on book selection — read the cover page to see what hypers said about the book and who those hypers were. You can also perceive a summary of the book from this.

3 — Page counting and deadline, boom!

This is the point it starts getting a little bit difficult. Because this is where the need for discipline steps in.

Page counting is something I learned from my father. He counts the number of pages a book has before he starts reading them. This enables him to set a deadline to complete that book.

A breakdown of how you can do this — Assuming you managed to settle for 2 or 3 books to complete in three months. Let’s say their average is 235 pages (I just got that number from a book I am currently reading, smiles 😁). As a starter, you can read five pages daily, no matter what.

Two books with an average of 235 pages are 470 pages in total. In that case, you should read six pages every day to finish these books in three months. Three months is approximately 84 days.

However, don’t forget to spice it up. You can read three from this and the remaining three from that. You can also read this and this and this for a week and that for just a day.

No matter how you choose to go about it, if you are dedicated, you will find both finishing almost the same week. Although, the one that interests you might finish before the other. In that scenario, start a new book alongside the unfinished one. The cycle goes on. At the end of the day, who is finishing numerous books? Youuu…

4 — Go mobile

Going mobile is a trick I use to read more books quickly by simply having their softcopies downloaded on my phone. So when I am too lazy to draw out a book and read or on a busy public transport, at least I can read from my phone. Another advantage is that you can play and listen to the audio.

Reading the book yourself is like eating the fruit, listening to it is like making a smoothie — unknown

A point that came to my mind is that you might not be able to find a free pdf copy of a book, and no one wants to pay twice for a book. To overcome this, you could take pictures of the number of pages you want to read that day from the books.

They are also softcopies so that you can go mobile with them. Then you can come back to highlight sentences that resonate with you on the hardcopy.

Bonus tip: Finishing any book you start is not a must. If it bores you, dump it and go for another one. By the way, you might come back to that same book later. But for now and always, stick to a book that interests you! Most often, the desire to finish a book that you don’t find captivating simply because you have started it negatively affects people’s reading habits.

5 — Be accountable to someone

This last bit is not easy to tackle. However, I have some tips you can use to overcome this:

  1. Form a book reading club with friends or search for one (book reading community or group) online and join. Since most people are interested in reading but need more zeal for it, finding a friend that is happy to join, especially when you introduce it as a challenge, might be easier. Although, you have to become that friend that brings the needed energy that pulls everyone along.

  2. Post on your social media status and keep updating your viewers. Write on your status what you have embarked on. State that you will be summarising your readings daily or weekly. You can even do this as a video, which might lead to vlogging or the next YouTube channel. Who knows?

  3. Practice journaling. Simply by summarising your readings or writing down lessons or even new words, etc., in a personal journal weekly or daily. This practice is personal. However, it is difficult to maintain since it is just you answering to yourself. But at the end of the day, just like all the tips I have listed (including every other personal development habit), you need self-discipline and dedication to conquer.

I hope these reading habit tips are as concise and helpful as I wished for them to be, dear friend.

Feel free to add personal tips or questions in the comments or, just like me -make a post on them. Also, don’t forget to tell me if you have tried any or going to try any. Cheers😁 !

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The Bittersweet Truth About Friendship Breakups: Mostly The Pain and Beauty of a Friendship

Friendships are often seen as the most stable and lasting relationships in our lives. We clutch onto them, hoping they will accompany us until the final breath, forever intertwining our souls. However, reality paints a different picture. Sometimes, these cherished connections end abruptly or gradually, leaving us feeling hurt, emotionally wounded, confused, and lonely.

Friendship breakups are not uncommon, but they are rarely discussed or acknowledged in our society. We don’t have a clear script for how to end a friendship respectfully, how to cope with the loss, or how to move on.

In this heartfelt exposition, I shall unveil my odyssey through the heartache of a friendship breakup, the reasons why it happened, the emotions I felt, and the invaluable wisdom gleaned from the wreckage.

I hope that by sharing my story, I can help others going through a similar situation, and show that friendship breakups are not a sign of our inadequacies but rather an inextricable part of life.

Welcome to my mind.

Around the final quarter of each year, people are always filled with thoughts that lead to writing and sharing their new year’s resolutions with friends and loved ones. Interestingly, in addition to this, I started seeing more people writing about cutting some friends off and not just habits — in recent years.

This subtly leaves me wondering how many friends or loved ones might have cut me off from their lives over the years without my knowledge. And if there were some, I imagine what I might have done for them to wish to remove me from their lives.

Usually, thinking about this makes me reach out to friends (those I have not cut off myself as well, smiles 😊) that our communication has recently been low, hoping that if everything is OK, I will receive positive energy back.

But last year, 2022, I received a direct email from a friend of over three years, and guess what — I have been cut off directly.

However, I am bittersweet about it — at least because of her; I will not have to wonder if anyone has cut me off since it can now be done directly. Secondly, she gave me her reasons.

How it all started

My thoughts on friendship take me back to as little of age as when I was in Primary 3 (an early childhood school system for the age bracket 6 to 8 in West Africa).

I remember vividly having our routine Thursday English language exercise called composition. This is a language creativity exercise that primary school teachers use to engage the pupils to compose and write a short story about something personal to them.

For example, we might be asked to ‘write a composition about your teacher’, ‘write a composition about your mother or father’, or even as complex as ‘write a composition about your village’ etc.,

That morning’s exercise was to write a composition about your best friend. I must also add that the teacher may wish to give a generic example on the blackboard to nudge pupils into brainstorming before writing theirs.

As a front-seater, I was handy as an example for this exercise. Below is how it went:

Teacher: Ekene, stand up and tell the class your best friend's name.

Ekene: The name of my best friend is Ifeanyi.

Teacher: How old is your best friend?

Ekene: He is five years old.

Teacher: What class is he in?

Ekene: He is in primary 1.

Teacher: No, Ekene, someone two years younger than you and in primary one cannot be your best friend. We have to use another classmate.

And that was it. I sat down and watched the teacher wipe out all the answers I gave to her questions and moved on to ask the next person. I remember that I could not describe how I felt at that moment.

But I am sure I did not feel sad about the situation or angry with the teacher. If not anything, the incident got me curious about discovering the meaning of friendship.

Over a few days, I have never fallen apart with Ifeanyi in everything (mentally and socially) as I started doing. I see myself constantly trying to clarify that I am older, wiser, and above him in class. This continued until I saw him become someone I could not call a best friend any more.

We grew to pass this stage and moved on with our lives, not remembering if we ever considered each other as best friends or just someone we knew as a family friend from childhood.

What does friendship mean to me?

Another lesson that childhood incident shaped in me is to question the intentions of people older, wiser, and above me in class when they call me their friend.

I remember courageously telling a friend of my mother during that stage that I am fond of that she was lying when she visited and ushered me to hug her and said, My very good friend’.

This came as a shock to everyone. The reason I gave was, ‘You are much older and smarter than me (you are even a teacher), so you cannot be my friend.

Anyway, this faded out growing up, but not much because any friendship with someone much older and smarter than me is low-key perceived as mentorship by me.

But to be my friend is simple yet complicated. You simply have to have something above averagely interesting about you that is hidden but enough to ignite my curiosity, like appearing a bit more non-conformist.

For example, I am quick to notice and engage with the person sitting alone or not contributing much to the group. I am also that weird to pay attention to someone with different leg sides of stocks or unique dressing (to the point of even noticing how unique the eyeglass you put on is).

“It’s the little details that are vital. Little things make big things happen.” — John Wooden

Fun fact: I said hi first to now one of my best-treasured friend simply because I saw he has diastema (a gap between his front teeth), just like my mom.

This is why she cut me off.

Over my a few decades lifetime, I have been friends with tens of people. I am still in contact with some, although as acquaintances. But very close to a few. There are some that I lost touch with as life's journey keeps drifting us in different directions.

I met my friend as an international exchange student in Europe. I became friends with her because I noticed she’s always quick to rush out of class and head home immediately after our lectures. I also felt that she is older than most of us.

Getting to know her better, I became friends with her husband and was invited to spend my last week with them before returning to my country upon my program completion.

We all stayed in close-knit communication throughout the months I stayed in my country until I relocated to England to further my studies. This was great news for all of us as we had thought that we might never be able to see each other again.

We were always making plans on how I will always travel to visit them in Europe during my holidays. However, Covid-19 happened in my second year in England, and everybody was locked down.

Like most of us, we overcame the lockdown by steadily conversing with loved ones. My friend was one of those I was constantly in contact with during this period. But after a few weeks, I noticed her energy towards me dropped low.

She later confirmed and urged me to give her space as she is really concerned about the state of things with the pandemic. There was no problem with this since everything went back to normal between us after the lockdown.

Fast forward to last year, my friend messaged me one day that she had bad news. She is pregnant. But she is one of those who never wishes to give birth to a child. I seized the opportunity to convince her that everything would be fine. And assured her that I knew she would be a great mother.

Everything seemed fine. A few months before her delivery, we were even on a conference call (all three of us) discussing a suitable name to give the baby now that they knew the gender.

But sometime in November, I noticed similar cold energy, but this time around, it came from both. I do not know if they have given birth or anything about them. Finally, on the 25th of December, I decided to check in on her on WhatsApp — but I was blocked. So I left an email.

I later got a response that she no longer wished to be my friend as life conditions had changed for her. She urged that I respect her wish and never to contact her again. I was sad that she did not answer my question about whether she had delivered. But most sadly, she informed me that she had not benefited anything from being my friend and no longer had time to keep committing to the friendship.

Well, I do not know if this is my usual friend who wants her space whenever she is in difficult situations and will still come back or if she is now someone who really wants to cut a friend off from her life.

I understand that becoming a parent is demanding, especially for couples who do not wish to be one. I also have been able to reconfirm the stand of my primary three’s teacher that you cannot be best friends with someone older, or more intelligent, and above your societal class.

I wish my friend the very best of life and a happy and peaceful family. I also hope she is aware that I am always here and that I will forever see her as nothing but a true friend.

Closing thoughts

I informed you what it takes to become close to me but not what it takes to be my friend. I believe in sharing. So, to be my friend, we should be able to share knowledge, happiness, and, most significantly, sadness.

I have come to realise that in friendships, it is mostly about enjoying the little things like time, moments, and laughter — for you’ll one day look back and realise they were the big things.

And I mean as little as giving a friend the chocolate she wanted…

In the words of Abhishek Tiwan — “It’s the most simple and smallest things in life that make you realise what true happiness is and what really matters”

I am sure I will add being a good friend even more to all my new year’s resolutions. Until then, I would love to hear if you have cut someone off from being your friend, are planning to, or have been cut off before — and the reasons in the comment section.

I leave you with one of my favourite quotes for times of transition – From A.A. Milne (Winnie-the-Pooh): “How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”

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My Analysis of the United Kingdom’s Property Market

An Overview of the UK’s Property Market/Real Estate

The property market is a significant industry in the United Kingdom’s economy. It spreads across the manufacturing and services sectors, which contribute 17.7 percent and 71.63 percent, respectively, to the UK’s GDP as of 2021.

With the UK being a developed country, the level of activities in the real estate sector at different levels is intense. The six top contributing assets divisions (Office, Multifamily housing, Retail, Industrial, Healthcare, and Student) run in billions of GBP.

Despite the impact of Covid-19, as of June 2020, listed office real estate companies had a market capitalization of 66.6 billion euros, while multifamily housing companies’ market cap stood at 53.9 billion euros. The third leading sector was retail, with a market cap of approximately 20.5 billion euros.

An Overview of AI in the UK

Artificial Intelligence (AI) can be defined in two ways, either as a ‘term’ or as a ‘process.’ As a term, it can be defined as machines’ demonstrated bits of intelligence, as opposed to the intelligence humans and animals display, which is controlled by consciousnesses and emotions.

As a process, it can be defined as a scientific system of machine learning, understanding, and application of knowledge to create an imitation of human activities (e.g., singing, problem-solving, and performing tasks) but in a broader complexity and accuracy.

Increasingly, the letters AI are appended to businesses’ tech products in the UK. This shows that AI is already an unstoppable force in the UK society and economy.

Tech Nation reports that there are up to 1,300 AI companies in the UK. That collectively generated a turnover of up to $2bn in 2021. An approximately 600% increase in the number of firms within the last decade.

The UK government also published research at the beginning of 2021 that shows that businesses spent an estimated £62bn on AI technologies and related labour in 2020 alone.

The Government has a 10-year plan that aims to position the country as a global artificial intelligence superpower that will compete on a global scale with the US and China. Similarly, Matt Chubb, Chief Technology Officer of Razor, supports the findings of the research commissioned by the UK government which posits “By 2040 over 1.3m UK business firms will be using AI, and then, investment in AI is predicted to reach over £200bn”.

Why AI will not take over estate agents’ jobs that soon in the UK

With all the glamour of AI in businesses, different sectors are asking ‘but what does this really mean for my profession?’

For the property industry, it’s unlikely that all professionals will lose their jobs, and be completely replaced by AI. Just like most other jobs.

The most recent adoption of artificial intelligence in the past recent decades includes big data computation in businesses, and public use recognition of human speech (Russell & Norvig, 2009),Generative Pre-trained Transformer like ChatGPT, autonomous o